Lyrics courtesy of a kasey chambers song... (bleh, whiny song)
Listing things that make people like you:
-being happy
-acting interested in what they have to say
-having other people want your attention
-being confident
-smiling (i like smiles)
None of these things are specific, confidence makes you attractive more than appearance, "being interested is being interesting", demand drives the price up, everyone looks better smiling, laugh and the world laughs with you cry and you cry alone.
so i went to a twenty first on saturday (i know im getting to the "too old creepy" part of goin to twenty firsts, but im friends with the guy and he invited me, i didnt drink nor hit on anyone, so i didnt do too much creepy, i think)
I tried not drinking for a change (because i was *supposed* to be goin for a 80k ride the next day that got canceled more or less before the 21st and i double checked to see if it was still on and i was told yes but really it should have been a no, grrr) i chated to some of the people i knew there, but without alcohol i felt like i didnt have much to say, although if my younger brother is anything to go by, alcohol only makes you *think* your doing small talk well.
I enjoyed myself. i made fun of my brothers friends for a bit, which as mean as that sounds is actually just how they talk to each other. I chated to a guy who had tried to talk to meet up with a friend of mine i took to the twenty first the fortnite before, he was happy/sorry to hear that he could have managed to meet up for coffee if he had been more confident in his facebook msg and actually asked to meet up, instead of just asking if she was the same person he had chatted too that night.
one of my brothers friends, who is sorta funny but a bit of a prat, we got him to say he would do a day of gay porn for 5000 dollars, which was funny, we made fun of him for the rest of the nite. he got a bit annoyed but kept comming over to chat so i dont think he took it personal.
there was a bunch of my flatmates brothers friends there who i know by sight, but when i tried to chat to them it died, and they would wander off, so now i wonder, should i do a speed friend "dating" thing to learn idle chit chat? networking is all the rage these days (with my just starting real job friends) and involves good face to face introduction/interaction. must be memorable, engaging and friendly, dont dismiss their ideas or appear bored.
But if i am bored, why cant they try to chat for a bit? I always think it seems like meeting people seems one sided, but maybe thats because i can only experiance my own side, but it seems like im the one who does the "try and find a common topic and have a random chat" thing.
I am happy that i was confident enough to mingle, i just need to do it more and ill increase my success rate.
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