I was watching the Cleaveland Show, which is a terrible spin off imho, and one of the kids wanted to impress a girl he fancied so the other one told him to think of something that made him happy so he smiled when he was around her. Because smiling makes you more attractive, seem happier etc, and everyone likes a happy smiley person, for the most part.
I also read a thing on body language etc that was suppose to help with flirting, it was on a friends blog. (if I find the link ill put it up, but the friends blog is longer than the hobbit nowdays) In this guide, it had a whole section about natural smiling, but still having an expression that changes, and how attractive that was.
Anyway so there are these two things, plus my own experiance chatting to some friends about someone i thought was attractive, i asked them what they thought, and the number one response was along the lines of smiling/laughing/looking like they enjoy talking to you makes someone more attractive.
This makes me think, if you are on a date you should smile alot, show your enjoying yourself.
Theory established. Next bit, set the scene:
I was out to dinner with a friend and we were having coffee/hot chocolate afterwards at Max Brenner. Anyways, two thirty something suits sat down on the table next to us. And i know its rude to eavesdrop, and i should be listening to the person im with, but i hibitually pay attention to alot of what is going on around me. I managed to keep the conversation with my friend fine, but also overhead the first guy going on about economics plus house prices etc. A very work-collegue safe conversation for afterwork coffee. But the other guy was smiling alot, and looked very attentive to what the first guy was saying. Then they got waffles with chocolate and fruit, and the second guy didnt want the banana only the strawberries, so the first guy was like "its ok, ill have it" and the second guy said "oh, so you want my banana?" with a laugh, and gave it to him. That seemed like a risque remark to me.
So afterwards i was chatting to my friend, and i asked her about it, and she had the same impression as me. First guy was hanging out after work, second guy was on a date.
Although first guy seriosly seemed oblivious, there were many clues. Attentiveness, alot of smiling, some imho flirty comments, and for last: who goes to a chocolate shop for afterwork coffees with work collegues anyway? it is soo a date location (despite the fact i go there alot with friends, collegues and sibling, im allowed to, its called double standards.) Maybe in the end, first guy liked second guy as a friend, and enjoyed the attention to some extent, and was acting oblivious to avoid having to deal with any more than that.
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I remember reading somewhere that the most common thing people are looking for in partners, is a good sense of humour (so much so that GSOH is a commonly used abbreviation, apparently). Having a good sense of humour isn't only about telling amazing jokes, it's also about being able to recognise that others are telling jokes and finding them funny. That's where it really helps to be able to smile and laugh easily.
It also gives a sense of connection - in the same way a common secret does - especially when that person's humour is a little offbeat. I find this in particular with nerds/geeks. Someone will reference some obscure scene in a TV show, and one other person in the group will burst out laughing, but everyone is clueless. The two people have made a connection, as they both know they're both geeks of that TV show and everybody else is just too stupid to understand (I'm so arrogant like that ^_^).
Lol, some others have suggested it was boss/underling suck up, salesperson suckup or some third thing I can't remember.
lol.. I think the third one was yes, they're actually on a date mw
hey gb , sorry comment not really related to your post , but did your hotmail get hacked by any chance? I got a strange email from you asking for money ... I didn't think it was your style to email around for money.
tc mw
Hey yeah, very annoying, changed pw, but if it happens again, will just close the account.
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