First Dates

Been reading a blog called a bad case of the dates, that i found through a friends blog, its very funny. People write in their bad first date experiances.

After reading a few i think i've come up with a list of don'ts for a first date (this is important because i can get a bit intense sometimes and im worried that i might sometimes come accross as a bad date.)

*Don't do suprises (bad examples include "romantic" gestures involving nudity and flower/candle trails, visit to the phsychologists)
*If you plan something far away, double check its open on that day.
*Dont keep pressuring them to do something if they dont want to (this is a hard one because sometimes people are just a little reluctant but enjoy it later, i think a rule of thumb might be if they are emphatic in saying no)
*Dont talk about sex, be pushy about sex
*Dont take people away from the public areas if they seem uncomfortable (just cos you know your not a murdering rapist doesnt mean they do)
*Dont loose your temper and say nasty things
*Be patient but dont do things your uncomfortable about
*Dont make excuses for your dates behavour cos it often leads to weirder
*Dont insult them/their ocupation, dont retaliate if they do it to you.

I think these are necissary but not sufficient rules for a good date. Because ive been on a few with different people in the last few months and alot of them didnt go badly (in particular there was one girl i saw 4 or 5 times) but they werent great dates (mayb a bit boring, although generally we hung out for a couple of hours chatting, and it didnt drag, it just wasnt exciting (at least i didnt think so)).

In an aside, i need to find out if im a good kisser or not, ive had 3 people tell me i was somewhere between great and amazing in the last few months(but i havent/dont/didnt catch up with them that many times and they seemed a bit biased) but the few others (close friends) who i have made out with before, whose opinions i value and trust, none of them can remember(they say (look i said i value and trust their opinion, i dont necissarily trust they will give it too me because as friends, they may not want to offend me so they say they cant remember)) cos we were so wasted (that was my three friends who i've hooked up with while plastered and i still chat to), although maybe thats not entirely accurate, i think one of them said i was ok, but not brilliant (although i think she was refering to sex, not kissing in particular).

So anyway i cant decide if strangers are more likely or less likely to tell me the truth about my kissing abilities. I personally dont see how i could be that good since i rarely practice :P. And maybe in the situation im in at the time, they are just complimenting me to move us along to some *other venue*. But i didnt fish for the compliment, they just brought it up while we were making out. See this is why i dont understand people:

Why would a stranger lie?
Maybe to make you feel good so you will go home with them.
Maybe to make you feel bad so you will seek validation by going home with them.
(Mayb the stranger hasnt had that much exposure either, so they arnt lying per se, but just making a subjective judgement without enough background information :P)

Why would a friend lie?
If they say your good, you may take it as they want more when actually they dont.
Because they dont want to hurt your feelings about not being anygood.

Sometimes its hard living in my mind.