I'm not sure if i miss the point of feminism, i thought it was chasing socail equality for women.
I just read some annoying blog about feminism and lady Gaga. It talked about gaga's telephone music clip where they do a thelma and louise type thing, and poison some oggling guy then the rest of the restaurant. Then the blogger went on to about how feminist point of punishing men for objectifying women is undermined by a sort of nihilistic punishing everyone.
then she went on to the idea of "hook up hangover" where a girl hooks up with a guy, feels empowered on the night, then regrets it the next day.
So stupid, thats not a uniquely female experience.
Also regretting hooking up doesnt disempower you. its just normal that sometimes you do something in the heat of the moment that you enjoy and then regret later. (getting drunk and having a real hangover is a good example)
i dont think empowering women should come at the cost of their libido. if they want permiscuos sex, then regret it later, there is nothing anti-feminist about that behaviour. they are choosing how to live their lives. its when other people suggest that somehow their choice to behave like that means they are caving to socail pressure, or demonstrating some sort of moral/feminist weakness of character that i think there is a problem.
imho its the idea that in a "hook up" situation that the woman *must* be taking the passive (in the idea that all sexual encounters have an active/dominant/empowered and passive/submissive/unempowered) role that suggests that promiscuity is somehow anti-feminist. But i dont believe that hooking up necisarily is always unidirectional.
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Does empowering women come at the cost of their libido? If you take the characters of "Sex and the City", who may not be completely real as TV has to be entertaining, but has to be somewhat based on reality as people would never watch it otherwise, they're all fairly powerful, independent women. Most of them regularly enjoy sex, and one of them would rather sleep with random men than settle down with one partner.
Maybe part of it is due to how promiscuous women generally tend to be the kind of women who dress like sluts - and so it appears as though they are playing into the whole women as sex objects thing. Slutty clothes are more likely to snag you a sexual partner, so the stereotype may hold even though there are non-slutty-dressing women who may be promiscuous.
I started playing HoN and forgot what I meant to write.... >_>
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